Unexpected Messages Post 2 - Letting forgiveness set you FREE
Letting go of Resentment: Margie Three Orbs - Unexpected Messages Post 2 Message Received: June 29, 2021 Written: April 18, 2026
April 18, 2026
Unexpected Messages - Post 2 - Letting Forgiveness set you free
Here I am on the Sunshine Coast of British Columbia for 3 weeks of beautiful coastlines, family, friends and rest.
What?! I’ve discovered something about myself! More than rest, I need to be creative! When I knit or cook or especially when I write, I am resting. I am mediatating. I am being true to MY-SELF!
What do you love for yourself?
EXACT WORDING OF THE RECEIVED MESSAGE:
“Remind Carol that every session is different.
Carol is taking in so many new ideas that her energy is scattered - but in a good way.
She seems to be receiving a lot of guidance from the spiritual realm.
Aunt Guidance?
Better understanding of where aunt was coming from?
Felt heart area - but not sad. Filled with a much lighter and hopeful energy.
You are walking forward now (?)
You are allowing yourself to let go of ties to your former life and understanding that you need to experience the pain of loss and the pain of abuse to find your own personal path.”
How It Landed for Carol:
“I was shocked that my reading had mentioned my aunt, a key figure in my childhood, but someone who had rejected me in adulthood. I was even more surprised that she still loved me. I hadn’t spoken with anyone about her in decades so it was impossible for Margie, someone I barely knew, to have known about her and the important role she’d had in my life. Having my aunt show up like this had me reeling. It brought up a lot of conflicting feelings—good and bad. When my reading also revealed that I would continue to receive different messages-on different topics-I felt this surge of both anticipation and wonder at what was to come. It was incredibly uplifting.”
Margie’s Thoughts on the reading:
When I mentioned “aunt guidance,” it was a jaw‑dropping moment for Carol. Her aunt had played a significant role in her life. They had once been very close, but the relationship had soured, and Carol had been unable to move past the anger she carried.
As our sessions together continued and more information surfaced about this significant relationship, Carol’s outlook toward her aunt softened. She began to understand the dynamics more fully, and with that understanding came the ability to release the resentment she had held for so long. This was a profound movement forward for her.
I must be clear that the release of resentment did not happen in one session… it happened over time.
This is the essence of deep inner work: a single insight, in this case, “aunt guidance” opening a door she didn’t realize was still locked. Once that door cracked open, the rest of the story, the anger, the history, the hurt finally had room to breathe.
Forgiveness began on that day. And forgiveness, is never about condoning the actions or words that caused harm. It is about setting yourself free from them. It can be difficult to wrap your head around forgiveness when you’ve been angry or resentful for a long time. But it is possible. It is freeing. It is one of the deepest acts of self‑love and it is hard work.
Margie’s insight and the Lesson:
Forgiveness is something we all eventually need to look at. Who in your life has hurt you or betrayed you in a significant way? Do you feel that your personal growth is being stunted because of this person’s actions? Do you feel stuck? Do you carry resentment or anger toward them?
Anger and resentment are emotions just like joy and love. They are meant to be felt and acknowledged. When these heavier emotions arise, it’s important to recognize them and allow yourself to feel them. Sometimes this can be a painful journey, because it requires us to look at where these feelings originate. But the truth is this: THE ONLY WAY OUT… IS THROUGH.
This is where inner work begins. We need to give ourselves space and time to feel what we feel. Ignoring these emotions won’t help you release them, it will only keep you stuck. You won’t heal by burying yourself in books or scrolling through channels. Healing requires presence. So if old hurts are keeping you from growing, it’s time to make space for yourself. Make a commitment to your own well‑being.
EXERCISE 1 - The Way Through
Sit quietly. Start with five minutes a day. Schedule it, just like you schedule everything else in your life. Make this a priority.
Close your eyes. Place your feet flat on the floor. Place your hands in your lap.
Take a deep breath in through your nose. Exhale fully.
Breathe like this a few times, bringing awareness to your body as it softens while you breathe with intention. Breath relaxes the body. It allows the nervous system to reset.
Breathing in deeply, breathing out slowly and fully.
It may feel like nothing is happening, but when you give yourself permission to truly relax, you create the conditions for healing. In this quiet space, you aren’t forcing anything. You’re simply clearing your mind as best you can. Over time, this becomes easier. You are allowing your inner self to bring forward memories and feelings in its own time. You are not trying to conjure them, you are giving them room to surface.
Be prepared: as you practice this, memories and emotions may arise throughout your day when you least expect them. When they do, pause. Acknowledge them. Feel what comes with them. As you continue this practice, you will begin to see how these old hurts have been holding you hostage.
Then you will reach a choice: to move toward forgiveness, or to continue feeling the way you feel.
If you’re ready to move forward with forgiveness this next exercise is a more intense way of continuing the journey.
EXERCISE 2 - The Way Out
“Name the Hurt Without the Story”
You begin the process of forgiveness not by forcing release, but by acknowledging the wound in its simplest, truest form without spiraling into the narrative that keeps the pain alive.
Forgiveness work cannot begin in a tense nervous system so sit comfortably, feet grounded, and breathe slowly until your body softens, much like the first exercise.
This signals to your inner self: “It’s safe to look at this.”
When you are ready, gently and without force bring the person to mind. Don’t start with the whole history; not the worst moment but instead just the presence of the person.
If this is too much then imagine them as a silhouette or simply hold their name in your awareness. The goal is tolerable contact, not emotional overwhelm.
Remember that you can do this in very small increments. Whenever you feel overwhelmed - STOP= and try again another time. Or go back to the first exercise until you are ready to continue.
When you are ready, you can come to the heart of this exercise:
Complete the sentence: “What hurt me most was…”
Remember to keep it simple. No explanations. No justifications. No story. Just naming what hurt you the most.
This step is powerful because: It separates the event from the identity of the person It also reveals the true source of pain (which is often different than the story we’ve been carrying) and it gives your inner self a clear starting point for healing.
You might feel: Tightness. Resentment. Sadness. Anger. Numbness. Relief. Confusion.
These are all normal feelings.
Your only job is to watch what comes up, not to change it.
The watching is the first act of self-love in forgiveness work.
Choose one of these statements (or create your own):
“I’m allowed to feel what I feel.”
“This hurt mattered.”
“I’m supporting myself through this.”
“I don’t have to forgive today. I’m just beginning.”
This step prevents the exercise from reopening the wound without offering care.
This exercise is important because it builds the foundation for forgiveness. It creates emotional safety, identifies the real wound, interrupts the constant looping narrative that keeps resentment alive, it begins shifting the nervous system from defense to openness, it honors you as a human before asking anything of your heart.
Forgiveness grows from clarity and compassion — not pressure.
It’s important to note that you CAN forgive someone without inviting them back into your life. You’re not erasing the past and you’re not condoning the action that caused the hurt, but instead you are simply stopping it from letting it define you. Resentment keeps the body in a state of stress, a feeling of being braced. Forgiveness lets the body relax.
Forgiving unfolds in layers through inner work. Allowing that door to open allows awareness and compassion in to soften the edges. Forgiveness is the ultimate act of self-love.
You forgive because you deserve peace and freedom.
Closing Invitation
If this message speaks to your heart, may it guide you gently toward your own awakening. If you feel called to walk this journey with me, I invite you to contact me to schedule a zoom session and let’s talk. margie3orbs@gmail.com
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